“Why” I do what I do… By Tedi Serge Sand Sisters LA

It was one of those “AH HAH!” moments. I was walking on the beach, trying to figure out my next career move. I had earned a bachelor’s degree in elementary education, but after spending time in the classroom, I soon learned it wasn’t the right fit for me. Being born in Southern California, I carried on a love affair with the beach and the deep blue ocean. Walking along the sand I thought, how can I capitalize on combining the two things I love most, the beach and teaching children? Even though teaching in a classroom wasn’t for me, I loved kids and I knew that teachers and counselors made the world of a difference in the children they taught. I knew teachers and counselors had conversations with students that were memorable and character shaping. I knew that the time spent at a camp or after school program needed to be with the right mentor for children to feel safe, happy, and inspired. So at that moment, I knew I had to combine the two elements in some way.

Being at a time in my life when I felt unsure about my future, I booked a surf trip to Costa Rica for inspiration. There among the ocean, rain forest and best food of my life, I experienced a very different lifestyle than that of the people living in the United States. In the Costa Rican culture, people spend their days outside and there is a large sense of togetherness and community. Their education is sadly secondary to other responsibilities, but the trip was a life lesson, on seeing how the water has created and maintained their lives. The community revolved around the water, the waves and made for a simple life of happiness, friendship and community. I had to add this feeling of togetherness to my big idea.

So, I purposefully brought back part of the Costa Rican culture to Los Angeles, for myself and for the girls who are growing up so quickly in our overstimulated society. Sand Sisters Los Angeles was born. I wanted to form a place where girls can simplify, be themselves and their best selves, gain confidence through water sports and empower each other. I started by taking one girl to the beach to surf and stand up paddle board and that has grown to become a beach camp in Playa Del Rey. From there it has grown to be an after school enrichment class in independent schools, a public class with the City of Santa Monica and Sand Sisters Saturdays. Sand Sisters Saturdays are a great opportunity for any girl in the LA community to come spend the day with us at the beach, hiking, in the music studio, or in an art studio. Every class is themed with a positive word of the day and a craft that follows the word. Some words we love to use are respect, inspire, trust, grateful, explore and health.

A year ago my sister came onboard, so the meaning has changed. The name once stood for “sisters” that meet at the beach and do camp like activities, but now it also means that we are the “Sand Sisters.” Two strong women developing a curriculum to change our youth. Two sisters fighting the odds and giving girls a place to show up and be greeted with a hug and know that they are loved and they are wanted. When these girls feel our sense of community at a class or event their spirits soar and their physical and mental health is top notch.

Visit our website at www.sandsistersla.com for our program details and community events!

This article was published by BOOST in May 2015.

 

The Beach Is My Best Friend

IMG_0562-4The beach is my best friend…is it yours? Obviously, the best day to go to the beach is a hot sunny day where you can relax and soak in some Vitamin D. If there is an opportunity for some time at the beach I suggest you take it, because you never regret a trip, walk, bike, or drive to the beach. It is always the one place on earth where I can reflect, unwind, breathe, play, smile, and laugh.

The beach lets you bring a party of friends and family to celebrate a birthday, it invites couples to stroll and fall deeper in love, it is an outdoor gym for many locals, and it is a place where you can come alone. A place where you can just show up and not be judged. Your race, gender, age and body type are  welcome. The beach doesn’t discriminate and neither does anyone else at the beach because the other beach go-ers are there for the similar reasons, to forget reality for a moment, procrastinate some work that is due tomorrow, paying bills, trying to fit in, and grasping the last bit of the day before the next one.

We all have insecurities about being alone, insecurities that leave you feeling empty, overwhelmed, sad and scared, but why?! You always have your best friend, the beach. Show up for yourself and show up alone. The beach will be there to greet you with a sun kissed nose, sandy toes, salty air, and a happy soul.

 

Friendship: Proximity Trumps Similarities by Tedi Serge, Sand Sisters LA

friendship_blog_pic_oahu(1)Have you ever thought about why you are friends with certain people? Before my reflection on this question, my answer would have been, “I am friends with ________ because we both like tennis”, or “I am friends with _________ because we both like to hang out at the beach.” But I was allowing myself to categorize my friends into thinking I liked them for having similarities to myself.

 

OH REALLY? Outward similarities are why I share my deepest secrets, cry to, laugh with, travel with, spend holidays with, and drive this person to and from the airport? Wrong! It is because I am around these friends and our souls see each other, and they like what they see.  Whether I spend 10 years going to school with the same classmates in my hometown or spend 40 hours a week side by side with my colleagues, they have turned into my closest friends because of proximity.

 

Proximity. I was simply around them and allowed myself to open up, share and exchange my feelings. The key to friendship is spending lots and lots of time with them. It isn’t the similarities that connect us as friends, but the time we have spent together that connects us. I am so different from some of my closest friends. We come from completely different backgrounds. On paper we would not be a match, but in life we are, and man do I love those friends.

 

Friendships are so magical because they don’t judge, they aren’t jealous, and they are not materialistic. Friendships are more real than any romantic relationship because they are drama free, sincere and exploding with love. Everyone could use more friends, explore people who you may least expect to befriend by putting yourself in the same room as them. Change it up and celebrate other people’s differences.

 

This leads me to the question that everyone asks themselves, especially in Los Angeles, “How do I make more friends?” First of all, you need to make sure you are someone that you would even want to be friends with. Look inward and ask yourself, “Am I honest, happy, reliable?” (fill in any characteristics you think represent a good friend here). If you can answer, “YES! I am awesome!” Then you are a friend magnet! You will be picking up friends anywhere you go. Put yourself out there. Join a class, play a team sport, physically just BE out in public and people will be attracted to you. Good people are attracted to other good people.

 

In closing, proximity trumps similarities. Be the best version of you and go out there and make some friends!

 

Sincerely,

Tedi Serge

Sand Sisters LA